The best self-care ideas…
The best self-care ideas are self-care activities that resonate with you on a personal level. The best way to come up with a complete self care plan is to make a list of all the things you enjoy doing best for self care. However, many of us have forgotten what it is like to take care of yourself first.
You are your first responsibility. If you were responsible for a baby, you would (hopefully) never neglect the baby, right? Well, it is time to start thinking about yourself the same way!
Another important thing to bear in mind with self-care ideas is that there are some elements of self care that are daily activities and maintenance whereas others are ways to take care of yourself that are more fun or decadent. They are equally important. The most important elements of daily self care are discussed here in “How to Take Care of Yourself From the Inside Out”.
Who are self-care ideas for?
These are self-care ideas for people who are, for the most part, mentally well. Although some of these self-care ideas will work for you if you are suffering from anxiety or depression or some other condition, you may not be ready for these ideas if you are unwell. I have written a depression treatment plan to help people guide themselves through depression (which is definitely not a substitute for seeking help in the form of counselling or a physician).
These self-care ideas are necessary because many of us tend to live life at such a frantic pace, overscheduling ourselves. People, perhaps especially those in the behavioural health field, but others as well, can tend to get burnt out. The way to avoid burn out is self-care. However, “self-care activities” has become such an over-used phrase. People say it, and yet many people don’t actually know what it means.
Too often, people’s idea of self-care activities involve more self-punishment. For example, exercise is a self-care activity. However, if you hate running and you force yourself to run as a “self-care activity,” it is no longer self-care. (So, what if you hate all exercise? Well, there are many other self-care ideas — 150 others — but, the truth is that I don’t think anyone actually hates ALL exercise. We were all children once and there was a time when moving our bodies in some way was a joy, not a pain… do you remember what that was? Even if you can’t still do that, what can you do that is similar? Can you start off slowly and work up to more?)
Self-care ideas are about being good to yourself. They don’t have to take up huge chunks of time. You can practice self-care by taking one minute out of every hour at work to just shut your eyes and breathe deeply (please use common sense — air traffic controllers cannot do this, for example). I once had a mountain of paperwork to complete in a somewhat hostile office environment and I felt very stressed and trapped. I put on headphones and listened to an mp3 of ocean waves crashing up on the shore. I just felt relaxed and “in the zone” all day. That is an example of self-care that was effective, free (it was a free app), and did not take any time except the time to download and install the app.
Use the self-care ideas that appeal to you most…
That is when you can consult this epic list of self care ideas. Jot down which ones you think might work for you and let the others flutter away from your mind. Some will be perfect for you while others might seem wildly inappropriate for your life and circumstances. Some cost nothing while others are expensive.
Some self-care ideas involve a lot of planning. Some self-care ideas are literally as easy as a walk in the park. It is a good idea to keep several self-care journals, which you can have on paper or in electronic format. For example, you could have one journal to log your physical exercise for the week. It serves as an encouragement to show what you have accomplished. Some of these journals could be replaced by apps — whatever you are most comfortable with.
Some self-care ideas are fun such as having a massage or going on vacation. However, others may be more difficult like cooking meals regularly, getting enough exercise, taking care of unpleasant tasks, etc. The benefit to doing the unpleasant self-care ideas is that you will feel a sense of freedom as a weight you didn’t even realize was there is lifted from your shoulders.
Self-care ideas: put them on index cards in a jar…
This is about you. Do what works best for you. Choose your favorite self-care ideas. You can even make it a fun activity by writing down each self care idea on an index card (recipe card) and then folding it over and placing it in a big jar or a box. When you need self-care ideas, just reach into the box and randomly select a self care idea. (Pro tip: If you don’t like the self care idea you selected, you can always try again!)
… and a jar for those self-care ideas that require a bit more planning…
Take the time to narrow this list to your own self care ideas because that is what is going to make this work for you. You might decide to keep some items on the list aside from the jar and place them in a second jar marked “self care plans”. This is because some of the items require planning and/or saving money such as going to the ballet (if that is your thing) or going on a trip (if that is your thing). Other things are things that you can do at a moment’s notice with no money at all such as looking at cat pictures on the internet, taking a bath (assuming you have a bath — I currently do not), and reading.
And now, the actual list of self-care ideas:
On to the self-care ideas list:
- Go for a leisurely walk.
- Try out a new recipe
- Schedule personal self-care time each day.
- Put on a homemade face mask.
- Do one thing at a time. Multi-tasking is a stressful road.
- Watch a chick flick (or whatever type of movie you like best).
- Listen to your favorite music.
- Read a book just for fun, just for yourself.
- Enjoy a long, hot, bubble bath (one of the best self-care ideas assuming you have a bathtub, which, sadly, I do not).
- Schedule 5 – 10 minute “play” breaks during the work day. You can do anything fun and non-work-related during this time. For example, you could spend 5 minutes coloring while listening to music you really like. This all depends on your job, of course.
- Go to a spa. If you can’t afford a spa, go to a spa school — get worked on by students and get services at a discount. Many of these self-care ideas suggest going to see a student when you cannot afford a professional. That way, you can enjoy the service being offered without paying a premium.
- Order in dinner.
- Sew, knit, crochet, cross-stitch, or quilt.
- Do beading and/or jewelry-making
- Do crossword puzzles or sudoku (and other Japanese puzzles) or cryptograms or word find.
- Enjoy high quality chocolate.
- Go to the library. For the books, for the ambiance, for people-watching, to get out of the house, and the list of reasons goes on…
- Color. It is one of the most fashionable self-care ideas these days. Some awesome coloring books for adults:
- Hug someone you love or a beloved pet.
- Relax outside.
- Relax inside.
- Volunteer in the community in a way that is meaningful, energizing, and challenging.
- Become a “tourist” in your own town, State, Province, or Country. Explore your environment. Find its beauty. Discover its secrets.
- Make a lunch date with a close friend.
- At the core of mindfulness is the idea of being physically, mentally, and emotionally present with your feelings. It takes time and practice to learn to be with and accept your own feelings. Feel free to brainstorm a list of ways you can be more mindful including general ways such as yoga and meditation, and specifics such as “keeping track of what I eat using this cool new app on my phone”. One good place to get started is with the excellent and bestselling book “Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World” by Mark Williams and Danny Penman.
- Plan to spend a certain length of time each day disconnected from the internet, the computer, my cell phone, my television, and all artificial distractions. After the length of time has elapsed, journal about what this experience was like and whether it is something you would like to plan to do regularly.
- Read poetry. It is better to read it out loud. Note any interesting quotes or ideas that come from the poem.
- Attend church services. Keep seeking until you find a church that meshes well with your beliefs. (If you do not believe, this one may not be for you — although the Unitarians, for example, accept people of all beliefs, even atheists — so, if you want to go to church, there is no reason not to go.)
- Have a three minute mini-meditation session in the middle of your day: one minute of awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and sensations followed by one minute of concentrating on your “belly breathing”, and one minute of considering how the whole body feels.
- Exercise (of your choice).
- Spiritual prayer.
- Attend a caring support group.
- Practice diaphragmatic breathing aka “belly breathing”.
- Do stretching exercises, yoga, or tai chi for relaxation.
- Go for a swim, scuba diving, wading, relaxing in a pool, or boating.
- Meet a friend at the swimming pool, lake, or ocean instead of going for coffee. It is very relaxing to float and chat (or even to float in silent companionship).
- Go to an aquafit class.
- Write a “to-do” list if you don’t already have one. Find the item that annoys you the most and do it.
- Make a list of your positive qualities in your journal, starting with “I am…” on each line and listing as many as you can think of…
- Keep track of compliments in your journal. Often, we might overlook or downplay the wonderful things that people say to us to the point that we might even forget what they said. By documenting these things, you can read them later and enjoy. (By the way, it is also a good idea to keep a log of your achievements and all the things you have learned because this is not only an ego boost, but is your ally in earning stellar job performance reviews.)
- Receive a massage. If you cannot afford a massage, consider going to a massage school. For half the price, you can have a massage from a massage student.
- Journal a reflection around the idea of “I appreciate…”. To do this, set a timer for 15, 25, 0r 45 minutes. Then write “I appreciate…” and keep writing (uncensored — no erasing, no judging) until I feel stuck. Then write “I appreciate…” and keep going. Repeat until the timer rings. A fdw of these self-care ideas involve doing journal reflections or timed writing exercises.
- Write your thoughts, feelings, ideas, hopes, and dreams in a personal journal.
- Attend an athletic event.
- Belly dancing.
- Go to a movie.
- A good glass of wine at the end of the day (for those who drink).
- See a counsellor, life coach, or pastor to work through life’s challenges.
- Watch the sunrise.
- Watch the sunset.
- Concentrate on a relaxing scenic image from a book, the internet, etc. Imagine that you are there. Use all five of your senses to think of what it would look, smell, sound, feel, and taste (?) like to be there. Feel free to journal about this.
- Create a collage representing “Who I really am”. You could also make a collage representing “Who I am not” since often our dislikes help us understand ourselves also.
- Listen to your favorite podcast(s).
- Start your own podcast.
- Plan what movies or TV shows you would like to watch next using IMDB’s top and most popular movies and TV shows or Amazon’s suggestions geared towards you to guide your search. Or you can browse through Netflix.
- Go to the theatre and see a play.
- Watch improv theatre.
- Go to the ballet.
- Go to the symphony or a concert.
- Go to a festival. If there is an event you want to attend, but cannot afford, often venues look for event volunteers and, if you have time for that, that might be a way to enjoy the event. However, this is about self-care ideas, so please only do that if it increases the self-care in your life as opposed to adding stress.
- Give yourself a manicure, get it done by a friend, get it done professionally, or get a student to do it.
- Give yourself a pedicure, get it done by a friend, get it done professionally, or get a student to do it.
- Sit and relax in the back yard.
- Try something new and thrilling such as skydiving.
- Sometimes self-care is about winding down and sometimes it is about letting off steam. In the spirit of letting off steam, do one thing that scares you (but is not actually too dangerous).
- Read a magazine.
- Catch up on your favorite blogs.
- Start your own blog.
- Sing, hum, whistle, or play a musical instrument. (P.S. You do not have to be good at any of these things.)
- Go to the playground and swing, slide, see-saw. It is amazingly refreshing to do child-like activities sometimes.
- Go to a lake, beach, or neighborhood outdoor pool on a hot, sunny day.
- Pack a picnic lunch and make a date with yourself in the park with a nice book.
- Go to the park and watch ducks or other wildlife.
- Go to an ethical zoo, if there is one nearby.
- Make a list of new things you would eventually like to learn how to do.
- Learn how to do something new from the list made in 78.
- Ride a bicycle.
- Go for a photo walk. This is exercise, nature, and photography (artistic expression) all in one. This is one of the most awesome self-care ideas!
- Go to the forest and be with the trees.
- Walk in the grass or sand with your bare feet (beware of pieces of glass, etc.).
- Get up early and enjoy the quiet tranquility of the morning.
- Walk your dogs (this is one of the self-care ideas I cannot do since, sadly, I have no dogs)
- Make sure you get enough sleep on a regular basis (going to bed and getting up at about the same time each day). This is called sleep hygiene and can make a big difference to how we feel.
- Make yourself a nutritious and interesting meal. Try to make this a habit.
- Draw/paint a picture, reminding myself that I do not have to be Picasso.
- Put on some music and move to the groove. It doesn’t matter if anyone else calls what you are doing “dancing,” you do your thing!
- If you are really out of shape, you can get one of those big blue exercise balls, sit on it and have bouncy fun to some music (because no one’s watching). Bouncing creates a sense of euphoria; it is good for the immune system; and it will get your heart rate up without causing problems with your joints. Most of these balls can hold up to 600lbs, so you are likely not going to burst the ball if that concerns you. (Disclaimer for all the exercises on this page: Please consult a physician before starting any sort of exercise regime, particularly if you have not been active in a while or have health issues.))
- Trampoline. If you don’t have room for one, how about a mini-trampoline? If you do, be sure to get one for adults. Personally, I would get one with a bar to hold onto. As I mentioned before, bouncing is healthy and fun. You can do it to music. It is hard to believe that it is exercise. Well, the getting sweaty and out of breath is a clue…
- Make a list of special places in your city or in nearby cities and towns that you would like to visit. Maybe you have been there before or maybe it is somewhere new. Visit one of these special places.
- Keep a special journal for quotations that inspire you. Whenever you find a new quotation, write it in this quotation journal. When you need inspiration, read from this journal.
- Make a list of all the things that are worrying you and take a few minutes to take some deep calming breaths and visualize the best possible outcome to each situation. Worry can be an important tool to help us know when we need to take action, but sometimes we get trapped in a cycle of worrying about things when we cannot affect the outcome (e.g. worrying that a train will be late). Imagine the best possible outcome. If that does not cure the worry, consider what you might do if the outcome is not what you would prefer. In that way, you can turn the worry from a little “worry spiral” in your mind to a decisive action plan. For example, instead of worrying that the train will be late, imagine that it comes on time. If you still feel worried, ask yourself what the consequences of the train being late would be and how likely those are. If the train is usually late and a late train could cost you an important interview, be proactive and contact the people you are interviewing with to let them know you might be late on account of this train. Or take an earlier train. These types of things might not immediately seem like self care, but they really are because alleviating the little anxious noises inside our minds helps us to be more peaceful and focus on what is important in our lives.
- Look yourself in the eye in the mirror and say, “I love you.”
- Go horseback riding.
- Write a reflection in your journal about “my best memories”.
- Enjoy a decadent, relaxing mid-day nap.
- Take a mental health day.
- Burn a candle, especially beeswax candles because they burn more cleanly (fewer carcinogens, etc.) than some other candles.
- For that matter, make beeswax candles. It can be an easy, fun, and rewarding craft.
- Sit in a coffee shop and people watch.
- Make a list of museums and art galleries that I would like to visit and visit one.
- Relax in a whirlpool/sauna at the local swimming pool. I sometimes like to go to the wave pool because it feels great and reminds me of my childhood.
- Enjoy a cool, refreshing glass of water. Staying hydrated is so important. Feel free to infuse your juice with fresh fruits, lemon, lime, or just drink it as is.
- Start a gratitude journal. Not only does Oprah think it’s a good idea, but there is research to back that up.
- Set limits for yourself.
- Ask for what you need from others/the universe/etc.
- Go outside the city and gaze at the stars on a clear night.
- Go camping.
- Wake up naturally (i.e. with no alarm clock).
- Go window shopping.
- Write a love letter to yourself.
- Treat yourself to a gift that you have been wanting and can afford.
- Go on a vacation.
- Create with clay/pottery.
- Pet an animal.
- Go on a wine tasting tour.
- Watch funny or cute YouTube videos.
- Lie down in the grass and stare up at the sky, watching the clouds and imagining shapes in them.
- Make a list of positive affirmations and then practice saying them out loud.
- Write in my journal a reflection about my abilities and my successes in life. Start each sentence with either “I can…” or “I have succeeded in…” Keep it positive. Do this as a timed writing exercise for 15 – 45 minutes.
- Write a poem expressing my innermost thoughts and feelings.
- Make a bouquet of flowers from the garden.
- Read a motivational book. Such as?
- Read an uplifting book. Such as?
- Write in my journal a reflection about what you value most in life. Start with, “What I value most in life is…” Similar to the other reflections, write as long as you can on this topic (set a timer for 15 – 45 minutes). Keep writing until the timer runs out. If you run out of things to say, rewrite the original phrase, “What I value most in life is…” and begin again. Remember: There is no “wrong” way to do a reflection.
- Take the time to phone, Skype, or text a special friend. Better yet, go meet with them in person.
- Go to a bar. Relax and have a drink. Ask for extra cherries in the drink if desired.
- Plan and take a road trip (or take a road trip with no plan).
- Buy a decadent treat at the grocery store or my favorite bakery.
- Get your hair done at the salon or if you cannot afford the salon, the hair styling school.
- Make a batch of ice cream and eat it. Okay, maybe not all of it.
- Cook a fancy meal.
- Set boundaries. Say “no” to someone. Did someone ask you to do something and you have no “reason” not to? Well, here’s your reason: you have plans. Self-care plans.
- Go to the farmer’s market.
- Wear a dress or clothing that makes you feel great.
- Declutter a room.
- Bake something. Just for fun.
- Preparing and drinking good tea can be a peaceful ritual of self-care. Choose a tea that you really enjoy and drink out of cups that are special to you. Note that you can often get very interesting cups second hand at the Salvation Army or other charity thrift shops, which is a triple blessing because you save money, you help others, and you get a beautiful item that no one will know was second hand. I used to feel weird about second hand cups and glasses until someone pointed out to me that I don’t feel strange eating in a restaurant… boom!
- Listen to a guided meditation CD or mp3. Just allow yourself to fully relax. This is another one of my favorite self-care ideas.
- Treat yourself to a delicious and healthy restaurant meal (yes – delicious and healthy is possible).
- Go to bed early.
- Sleep in.
- Take an on-line course.
- Create an on-line course.
- Write a novel, screenplay, short story, or whatever else you have inside of you.
- Forgive. Forgiving is about letting go of anger, hatred, and so many negative emotions. It is not about the person being forgiven or whether they “deserve” to be forgiven. It is we who deserve the peace that comes along with truly forgiving someone. This might not happen overnight. For now, perhaps just write a “release letter” letting the person you want to forgive know how they have wronged you and why it is upsetting. End the letter by forgiving them if you are ready. You do not have to send the letter — in fact it is often better to throw it out when you are done. It might not be immediately obvious how this fits in with the other self-care ideas. However, this process can be very cathartic.
- Unplug everything. No phone, no internet, no television. Just relax and be tranquil with myself.
- Do one thing today just because it makes you happy.
It is important to take regular time in your day for self-care. Although it may seem decadent at times, it is our self-care activities that protect us from burnout. For example, someone who takes the time to exercise regularly and eat homemade nutritional meals might build up more resilience against stress than, say, someone who never exercises and ony eats fast food.
The nice thing about self care is that it not only helps us, but it helps those around us because we are more energized and refreshed and can provide a more positive outlook. Those who have been on airplanes will recall that the flight attendants always tell you that in case of an emergency, if the air mask comes down from the ceiling, you should put your own mask on first, prior to helping your child or another person. They don’t say that just to be kind. They say it because if you don’t, in the event of an emergency, you are liable to pass out before you can put your own mask on. And you might even pass out before you finish helping your child.
Taking care of yourself first is essential to navigate the hectic pace of modern life. Building up a well of resilience is your best ally in learning to live a peaceful, productive, and enjoyable life. These self-care ideas can go a long way to helping you to build up your resilience.
Feel free to add your comments as well as your favorite self-care activities below.